You Are Not Responsible for Your Trauma, But You Are Responsible for Your Healing

You Are Not Responsible for Your Trauma, But You Are Responsible for Your Healing

Trauma is a heavy burden, often carried silently. For many men of colour, the weight of trauma is compounded by the historical and systemic impacts of racism and colonialism. The wounds inflicted by these forces have left deep scars that transcend generations, shaping not only individual lives but entire communities. Yet, despite the painful legacy of systemic racism, one truth stands firm: while we may not be responsible for the trauma we inherit, we are responsible for our healing.

Systemic Racism and Colonialism: A Legacy of Trauma

For BIPOC/POC communities, trauma is often intertwined with systemic racism. The effects of colonialism still reverberate in modern society, manifesting in social, economic, and psychological inequities. This ongoing oppression leads to feelings of disempowerment, isolation, and pain. Men of colour, in particular, are expected to navigate their trauma within societal frameworks that both marginalise their experiences and demand they conform to limiting stereotypes of masculinity.

This double bind—a lack of emotional outlets combined with the pressure to appear “strong” and unaffected—leaves many men of colour trapped in a cycle of unresolved trauma.

The Power of BIPOC/POC Groups: Healing Through Community

There is immense power in community, especially within BIPOC/POC groups. Healing is not a solo journey, and for many, the first step is finding a space where they feel seen and understood. It is within these communities that depth of identification occurs—when men realise they are not alone in their struggles. Sharing experiences with others who have endured similar challenges fosters a unique bond, and it is in this bond that the seeds of healing are often planted.

Groups like The Work provide an essential space for men of colour to confront their trauma and begin the journey toward healing. These spaces allow men to strip away the societal masks they’ve been forced to wear and embrace both vulnerability and strength. The shared understanding of systemic injustice creates a foundation for healing that is deeply rooted in empathy and solidarity.

Creating a Roadmap for Healing

Healing from trauma is a complex process, and while there is no one-size-fits-all approach, having a roadmap can help guide men through the often murky waters of recovery. At the core of this roadmap is the need for intentional work: acknowledging the trauma, embracing emotional expression, and cultivating practices that support long-term mental, physical, and spiritual well-being.

For men of colour, this roadmap must also consider the specific cultural and historical contexts of their trauma. This means seeking out resources and communities that honour their experiences, like BIPOC/POC healing spaces that integrate cultural identity into the healing process.

Steps to Healing:

1. Acknowledge the Trauma

The first step in any healing journey is recognising and acknowledging the trauma you carry. Understanding how systemic racism, colonialism, and personal experiences of discrimination have impacted your life is crucial.

2. Find a Supportive Community

Surrounding yourself with people who understand your unique experience is key. Healing is a collective process, and support from those who share your struggles can provide a deeper sense of belonging and understanding.

3. Embrace Vulnerability

Healing requires letting go of the fear of appearing weak. True strength lies in vulnerability, and men of colour must reclaim this space to express their emotions without shame.

4. Engage in Emotional and Physical Practices

Practices like therapy, meditation, breathwork, and physical disciplines such as Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu or strength training can be powerful tools for healing. These practices allow for emotional release and build resilience.

5. Create a Roadmap for the Future

Healing is not a one-time event; it is an ongoing process. Set intentions for long-term growth by incorporating practices that support your emotional, mental, and physical well-being.

Healing Is Your Responsibility

While the trauma inflicted by systemic racism and colonialism may not be your fault, your healing is your responsibility. This is not to diminish the real and painful challenges faced by men of colour; rather, it is an invitation to take ownership of your healing journey and break the cycle of pain. Communities like The Work exist to offer support, guidance, and a safe space for men to heal and grow.

Healing is possible, and it starts with recognising that while you may not have control over the trauma you’ve experienced, you have the power to transform how it affects your life moving forward.